Let's talk about self resilience today or as I like to call it "Finding your inner Wile E Coyote"
What is it? Self resilience is the ability to deal with adversity, obstacles, stressful situations confidently and bouncing back from those setbacks. Let's look at Wile E Coyote..how many times has he pretty much killed himself yet there he is again trying something different to catch Roadrunner...he just never gives up.
We are all born with this ability. I have yet to meet an adult that still crawls around because learning to walk was just too hard and they fell too many times and just gave up.
Where some lose this ability is unclear. Could have been a negative adult in their childhood,etc.... We could probably have an hour long discussion on the philosophy of how it happens.
The important thing to realize is this can be worked on like any other habit.
---Always focus on the positive first. I guarantee you can find the positive in every situation but you have to look for it.
--Don't look at obstacles as roadblocks but as detours. They might take you off course on a longer route but you will still get to your end point
--Celebrate your victories even if they are tiny. Remind yourself of how far you have come.
--Don't look at your actions as pass or fail absolutes.
--Accept, embrace and reframe failure. We fail our way to success. The most important thing is to learn from it, dust yourself off and get back up.
--Remind yourself of why you are getting back up. For Wile E Coyote hunger was his motivation...find yours.
--When you hear your inner voice beginning to be negative. STOP IT! YELL AT IT!! TELL IT TO BE QUIET!! And fill your head with positive thoughts. We have COMPLETE control over our self dialogue! It takes mental muscle but the more you do this, practice it the more natural it becomes
--Realize that success is never perfect, pretty and linear...it is ugly, crazy, and bumpy!
Time to find your inner Wile E Coyote!! You will need it on this journey!